Last classes about developmental psychology has been pretty… Intense? On Tuesday we started reading some texts related to attachment, two of them caught my attention, well actually all of them were really interesting but the one about the reading and the other about the man who didn’t want to marry surprised me (as a matter of fact he could not tolerate close relationships). At first what I understood about the first one was that attachment is not something that you can force, like when the parents read to the kid and then when the kid grow up they force him to read which provoked that he didn’t want to read anymore. But today, I have also discovered that this text shows how attachment is not only linked with people, furthermore I have also learnt that attachment changes through time as it seems to happen with this kid.
The one about the man who had fear of commitment caught my attention because one of the questions that our teacher gave us in our group. He asked us to think with our nowadays knowledge what we would have done if we were the therapist, at first I had no clue at all, then I started to think in a deeper way that the answer maybe was as simple as looking to the first years of the childhood of the man because the (early) relationship with your parents for example can influence your future relationship as an adult.
Today, we have done a quite funny… Experiment? While talking about the texts, the teacher suddenly asked for our attention and told that he was going to give us a present, then he gave us a pen. My first impression when he gave us a pen was like ‘’this is not good’’ ‘’something’s going to happen’’ ‘’let’s hope it’s not an exam’’. Extrapolating this to my life I can see some coincidences like when something comes to my life as a present I start to think why this has come and if it’s a cheat. Then my mates and I started to guess what the teacher was doing to us and trying to see some hints about the teacher behavior but why was that if the teacher was only giving us a present? Why did I start to look for some hidden hints?
Then the teacher took from us our pens, I actually didn’t feel cheated because I knew something like that was going to happen. I felt quite quietness because this meant that ‘’the pen activity’’ was like an experiment, in this moment I suffered a transformation because I realized what was happening but I decided to do what I would have done if I wouldn’t have realized it so I chose not to take the pen again because Who knows? Maybe the teacher is going to ask for it again.
Finally, we talked about it and I was thinking about all of this experience. If I had not doubted about the teacher, I would have a new pen. But I didn't feel bad about it; I didn’t want the pen from the beginning. The teacher told us that this kind of behavior is usually because of something that has happened in the past and that usually the person disengage it and that by knowing it we could change it ( Sorry I do not understand what you mean here). The day has ended with a lot of information and with a question, Should I do something about it?